Love sought is good, but given unsought is better!

Waiting on the one you truly love to reciprocate the love you’ve shown most times is a futile journey!

Allow me tell you a true-life story!

                Mark, a young man in his late 20s works in a law firm, he was richly blessed with wealth and lacked nothing except a true companion. Mention anything money could buy, Mark had it all. Think of anywhere money could take one to, Mark has been there. But, he had no woman he could say loved him sincerely, aside his mother and sisters. He had a strong believe in the existence of true love, and this he promised to show to any woman he decided to make his. He had been through very rough relationships, ones full of lies, and deceit. He had almost given up on love until he met Uriel at a house party he was invited to. Uriel, no doubts was very beautiful and her physique was breath-taking. He walked up to her, they exchanged contacts and in no time, became close friends. As a soft-hearted and easy person, Mark began to fall in love with her. Her thoughts filled his mind at all times. He decided to propose a relationship, in order to ascertain if the feeling was mutual. Surprisingly, Uriel accepted his proposal and this only made Mark fall deeper. All he ever wanted was a woman to love him sincerely as much as he would love her. Growing up he had seen how bad his father treated his mom, and he made a promise to her, that he will never treat a woman wrongly. All his life he has loved and been with one woman at a time, but they have never treated him same way. All they did was lie to him, cheat on him and take his generosity for granted. Now, he had started something new with Uriel, all he could do was hope that she would be different. 6 months into the relationship, he kept on to his promises, he treated her well, provided her needs to the best of his ability and kept on loving her sincerely. But just as usual, the feelings were one-sided. She didn’t feel same way. He sensed this, but wasn’t sure, hence he never confronted her. Instead, he kept expressing his love to her, not just in words, but also in actions.  Uriel kept on receiving gifts in all forms, but the way she felt towards him never changed, she never loved him.

                Unfortunately, she was caught exchanging kisses with another man, when confronted, she didn’t even feel remorse, instead, she flared up, throwing all sort of ill-words at Mark, saying she never loved him, and will never love him. Also, she thanked him for the cash and gifts he gave her, saying it was all a form of compensation for her time.

                Today, Mark is still unmarried at 37. Unable to change the person he is, and unable to disregard the promises he had made to his mom who he loves wholeheartedly. Hence, he decided to not commit to any woman.

To love is a good thing, but to be loved is the greatest privilege of them all!

                It is so sad how people feel so free toiling with the emotions of others. Not everybody has been blessed with the ability to love sincerely. Also, not everybody is able to stop themselves from falling in love, especially when you successfully make them happy. Hence, when you find a soft-hearted person, who loves easily and freely, treat them right, but if you know within you, that you cannot give back that same amount of love, or one close to that amount, please, walk away and save them the stress of having their heart broken.

                It is because of cases like this, most men and women have given up on love and up for vengeance on any heart that dares come close. Because of a bad past experience, they’ve decided to close their hearts to ever loving. Some become so blind that they can no longer differentiate between a good man/woman and a bad man/woman. They become so naive that they cause hurt to any sincere heart that dares to develop interest in them.

                It is so sad the turnout of things in the world today, but my candid advice to all is, if you are not ready for love, do not waste the time of another who is ready. We have all been through shit in life and had our hearts broken. So, if you are not ready, do not try, do not let out your anger on an innocent, all in the name of “they are all the same”. They all can never be the same! You end up damaging a once beautiful heart, and leave an innocent person to come feel the wrath of your damage. It is so unfair!

                Also to everyone who has ever been victim to heartbreak, or has loved and never been loved back, the Lord is your strength, I could imagine the pain you must have gone through or you are going through. But, please do not give those who hurt you the chance to feel they have won. Do not give up on who you truly are, one with the ability of loving. Take one step at a time! Try be careful with your heart. When you find the one whose words and intentions are true, please love them sincerely.

It is never easy, but it will be alright!

To love is nothing, to be loved is something, but to love and be loved by the one you love, that is everything!

Never take love for granted!

Do not get it twisted, LOVE is a beautiful thing!

Iam_peaceaghed…………………………………………………..writing is my passion!!!