ARE YOU CAPABLE OF LOVING?
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Love has always been my favorite
topic, from childhood till date, despite how much the world has changed from
then to now,
despite how much I may have changed too, this topic I still enjoy
talking about.
I am not here to tell you “love is perfect”.
Neither am I going to tell you that love never hurts and so on…….
Love hurts so much, but I can say
it is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen.
If you ain’t hurting, you ain’t loving!!!!
By definition, Love is a variety of
different feelings, states, and attitudes that range from interpersonal
affection to pleasure.
Love is one of the most profound
emotions known to humans, it is a feeling of strong attraction and personal
attachment. It is a form of unconditional affection you have towards another, from
which you derive a very high level of pleasure.
Love drives and inspires us to
accomplish some of the craziest and most amazing feats.
Love can make you happier than
you’ve ever been, sadder than you‘ve ever been, angrier than you’ve ever been.
It can elate and deflate you almost at the same time. Love is crazy!!
Growing up, a lot of us actually
had a wrong perception about love. We all expect love to be perfect, one who
loves me truly will never hurt me, he will always provide my needs.
If they are perfect, they are faking it!!
Especially for us ladies, we so
much expect perfection in a guy, expect him to know everything about us. If he
doesn’t know your favorite color, there is problem. If he doesn’t give you
money to make a new hair-do, there is problem. If he doesn’t remember to buy
what you asked him to get you, there is problem. We totally forget that there
is no human on the surface of the earth that is perfect, and boyfriends and
husbands are not excluded, they humans too.
Ignore those fairy tales you’ve
read, and let’s face reality.
Love does exist and it is
imperfect!!!
Guides to loving
- Before loving another, you must first love and appreciate yourself.
- Care for yourself just as much as you care for others.
- Always be grateful for who you are, no matter the challenges before you.
- Keep a positive attitude at all times.
- Engage in things that make you happy.
- Take some alone time, to work through problems, reboot your mind and discover yourself.
- Accept that you don’t need a partner to be happy. The key to your happiness is in your hands alone.
- When in a relationship…..
- Commit to your partner and to your relationship.
- Be intimate.
- Accept that love is dynamic, know how to rekindle love when it starts to fade.
- Be open to love, don’t try too hard to control your feelings, allow yourself to love and be loved, no matter your past relationships.
- Express gratitude and show appreciations no matter how little what your partner does.
- Never expect perfections from your partner, hence accept them as they are. If they are perfect, trust me, they are faking it!!
- Learn lessons from your mistakes and apply them in improving your relationship.
- Accept each other’s differences, and try reconcile these differences.
- Balance your negative and positive feelings toward each other. Whenever there is a negative atmosphere probably after an argument, ensure to resolve the misunderstanding by engaging in positive interactions to restore a sense of balance.
Personally, I write from
experience, loved and lost, but never given up on love. The feeling love
brings, is too good to not want to feel it again
.
Most often I wonder, about those
persons who have given up on love, how do they do it? How do you stop yourself
from loving? God is love! He created us in his own image and likeness. How then
do you stop being who you destined to be? Probably it is just a camouflage?
Probably they just trying to be strong and protect themselves.
Find that one person who totally
rocks your world, hold on to them, and love them sincerely with no fear. If
along the way you fall, never give up, instead stand up, and love another,
until you find that one person who is too scared to lose you just as much as
you are scared of losing them.
Whether
you have loved and won, or loved and lost, it was totally Worth it!!!!!!
Let
Love lead!!!!!!!
iam_peaceaghedo..................writing is my passion!
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