It is entirely possible to remain friends with an ex, but it is not entirely a wise idea.

Judging from our personal experiences, a lot of us are familiar with the “I’d like us to still be friends” conversation.

To some persons, being friends with an ex is a sign of “maturity”,

Letting go is hardest when the relationship began with a friendship. You do not want to completely ruin what you had just because a romantic relationship didn’t work out. Whether the breakup was your call or not, cutting a person out of your life, someone with whom you’ve shared secrets, dreams for the future, a bed or even a home, is really a tough decision.

That is why I always advice never to spoil a good friendship with a relationship… not every friend of the opposite sex you should start an intimate relationship with. Because when everything goes sour, it is difficult regaining that awesome friendship you once shared.

If your relationship ended as a result of distance, probably one had to move away, then remaining friends is actually harmless.

But If it ended due to abuse, infidelity, jealousy or trust issues, then remaining friends is impossible.

Being friends with an ex can be quite challenging. It keeps you in a tough spot emotionally, makes it harder to move on from the relationship and the feelings you had.

Ending a relationship on whatever term could be really painful, especially when you have invested time and emotional energy in it. Hence, we use the “being friends” to keep ourselves from feeling the full depth of the loss, softening the blow of the breakup. Funny as it may sound, In such a situation, remaining friends would be a bad idea, because you are preventing yourself from healing and moving on. You think you are morally superior, meanwhile, your ex is sucking up so much of your emotional bandwidth that you have zero energy left for tinder.

Personally, in my own experience with both of my exes, in an attempt to remain friends, whenever they reach out to me via any social media or a phone call, I get reminded of the old good days, and for a minute or two, old emotions resurfaces. Hence, I have decided to stop every form of communication with them in order to concentrate on the future and prevent any form of complications.

I would say it could be quite dangerous at times to remain friends with an ex, noting that even if you are not sexually attracted to your former partner anymore, you may still crave the emotional intimacy that you two shared. From being friends, someday you could both become “friends with benefits”.

Some could hang on with the desire to re-spark the relationship someday. they hang on with the believe that one day, he/ she would realise their mistakes and ask to comeback.

 Also, remaining friends with your ex, could in many ways affect your current relationship, especially when he/she is a jealous person. Hence, if you sincere to yourself and really sure that you are no longer romantically attracted to your ex, also inquire to know if they feel same way before proceeding to being friends. Being friends with an ex who is still romantically attracted to you or still acts possessive of you, could someday threaten your relationship.

In some cases, some keep their exes around as a backup plan, in case no one better comes along. This is not only unfair to your ex, but also holding you back aswell.

My advice to you esteemed reader, we all somebody’s exes, whichever is your case, hard or easy to let go, friend or enemy to your ex, be wise in your decisions…….

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