but the problem with us is that we allow some faults in us overshadow our awesomeness. We allow our yearning for luxury get the better part of us. We allow greed step into our lives. We allow envy turn us into the monsters we once despised.
We hate ourselves, we stand divided, we are not respected, we adopt certain useless habits like gossip, we are degraded. All these are products of our doings.
If only we could truly understand the reason for our existence, we would come to realise that certain things we do in life are just uncalled for.
Many have gone astray in an attempt to get it right. I may not have seen much in life, but I know enough, and want to share that knowledge with you.
No woman created by God is ugly. It all depends on your understanding of beauty though. Being beautiful doesn’t really mean your facial/physical appearance. Beauty is from within, beauty is in the heart of a woman. A girl could be all curvy, with a facial look like that of a goddess, but hard at heart, rude, mannerless. Though it is awesome to have both an inward and outward beauty, but never think of yourself as being ugly, unless you do have a disgusting character.
Never make the mistake of comparing yourself with another. We are all unique in our own ways. Just as in chemistry, no two atoms of same element are alike, so also are no two women of the same God alike.  You are blessed in ways you are yet to discover.
Be confident, love and appreciate yourself.
Indeed, we are very emotional set of creatures, even the smallest of things could make us tear up. But this shouldn’t cloud your sense of reasoning. You are a strong woman. Never think contrary.
Remember, nobody on the surface of the earth is perfect, allow yourself to make mistakes, and do not dwell on that mistake, don’t let it weigh you down, don’t allow regret chip in, instead work hard towards being a better person. Mistakes exist to stand as a correction to us, and our imperfections stands as a reminder that we are humans after all.
We have all done something in the past that we are not proud of, sometimes when we remember them, we wish we could go back and make it right. My advice to you my beloved, is that you forget the past and hope for a better tomorrow, as you now know better.

Mary J. Blige once said, "I know who I am. I am not perfect. I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world. But I'm one of them".

Never allow anybody make you feel less of yourself. Never settle for less, never allow anybody drag you down. If it be a friend, caution him/her, if it continues, drop them. If it be a partner, correct him and let him know how hurt his action or words make you feel.
Don’t be over conscious of what you do or what people think about you. Nobody will ever know you as much as you know yourself. Keep your heads high and be confident!
One thing I admire the most in life, is one’s ability to admit to his/her faults. My two worse kind of people are, those who lie and those who find it hard to apologise. “It is said that there is a problem when you fail to realise that there is a problem”.
Women! we forget our flaws and all we think of is our awesomeness, how beautiful we are and how underserving we are of certain situations and treatments from others.
As women, we have plenty issues, even I as a woman, I admit I have plenty issues “wahala”, and my own is out of this world. *winks*
But the first step towards progress, towards being a better person is to recognise and acknowledge that you are at fault and be remorseful about it.
I understand whatever you are going through or what you have been through. We have all been through a lot in life, challenges ranging from heartbreaks to disappointments, to being cheated on, to being abused and disrespected. We have been through it all. You are not alone!
But never give up on who you are destined to be. A woman with a loving and caring heart. Do not allow whoever did hurt you dance in victory when he discovers he did so much damage to you to the extent that you can’t love again. No! don’t be that woman!
Be brave, no matter how hard you have fallen, stand up and love again. Give love another chance in your life. This time, do it by putting God first, don’t be scared, go get it right with love and ensure that the turnout of your life leaves whoever did hurt you full of regret.
Personally, I have loved and lost, but I have never given up on love.
Whether you have loved and won, or loved and lost, it was totally worth it! Never give up on love! You deserve to be loved!!.
At times, through the rough patches of life, love may start to fade. The love you once felt may begin to die. It is advisable that at times like this, try remember what made you fall in love initially, remember those things about your partner that made you smile merely thinking about him. Remember those things that made you happy. Never give up on the love you once shared. And never give up on the person you once loved simply because the feeling is fading away.
They may not appreciate your efforts put in an attempt to revive the feeling you both shared, but never give up, keep pushing, present the issue to God, wait on him, I assure you, your love would be restored.
11.   Cherish the man who accepts all your flaws.
If only you know how rare it is to find a man who would love you whole-heartedly despite your every imperfection and excesses. Just as there exists impatient women, so also are there impatient men. They have no patience with you, and are very judgemental of your every flaw. Some will be with you just to have sex with you, but within them, they’ll be like “I can’t wife such a woman”.
my beloved women, if you do find a man who readily accepts you as you are, and finds you totally awesome despite all your flaws, do cherish him. In short, propose to him. *winks*
Look within yourself, search thoroughly and sincerely, are you perfect? Then why expect your partner to be perfect?
No human on the surface of the earth is perfect. We are just blessed differently and uniquely.
Quite unfortunate the rate at which values have been devalued in our world today. No matter how successful you are, no matter how wise you may be, no matter how beautiful you are, no matter where you have been to, no matter who you do know, and no matter what, never try to be the man in your relationship/marriage.
Allow your man to be the man.
This is a very vital point. The enemy is closer than you think. Some friends are not what they appear to be. No one knows the heart of another. Not all available shoulders should be leaned on. Not all open arms should be ran into. Not all smile should be taken as a shared joy.
Some friends are deadly.
It is so bad that even relatives sometimes are not as friendly as they appear.
Mind who you confide in. This is why there are professional counsellors today.
You never can tell, you may be confiding in the devil himself, and end up in a greater mess than it was initially.
I sincerely, do hope that you be enlightened by my words and be a Wise Woman henceforth!