She was raped by her father when her mother was admitted in the hospital during labour. He threatened to kill her and her mother if she reported him to her or to anyone.

     At that very moment in that girl’s life, she needed somebody to talk to, somebody to confide in, someone to console and reassure her that everything was going to be alright, but reverse was the case. She was left to deal with the pains herself. Her father was a drunk and a womanizer. He never cared for his children nor his wife. He beats and maltreats them mercilessly.

      She had a boyfriend whom she had deprived sex since they started dating, finally she decided to give him what he had always wanted. They had sex, but he was angry that he wasn’t the first. Months later she fell ill, went for a medical examination, and the results showed that she had contacted Gonorrhea, and her boyfriend was responsible. She soon started prostituting in order to make ends meet, to send her younger brother to school and fend for her mother. Severally her life was in danger, series of fights and attacks. Even the prostitution world is a dangerous one.

     A girl child while growing needs all the support she can get, especially from her mother. But in cases where a mother is not available, probably dead or separated, there is nothing wrong in a man taking up the responsibility of a mother. But if this seems like a difficult task, it is advisable to send her to a well trusted and disciplined relative.

     We must never undermine the importance of putting in a great deal of effort in bring up a girl child. Long gone are the days of old when mothers stayed at home to keep an eye on their daughters. Today, mothers are busy going about their own business without even caring about the psychological growth of their daughters. To some, its all about the money. There is nothing wrong in working tirelessly to ensure your daughters do not lack anything, but do not forget their mental needs. You busy focusing on the outer appearances, forgetting about their mental growth.

     Also, is the case of a struggling mother. No matter how hard life hits you, it doesn’t cost a dime to have certain talks with your daughters. No matter how hard things may be, ensure to monitor your daughter’s psychological and mental growth.

     This is the main reason why I try as much as possible to never judge anybody. The prostitute you see today, may have been a victim to rape, some were introduced to sexual acts from a very tender age. I once knew a girl who was from a wealthy family, but still went about sleeping with men for money. What would you think her problem was? Could it be that she wasn’t contended with the money she receives from her parents? Teach your daughters to be contented with no matter how little they are provided with. A girl who learns to endure while growing up, would remain so even at adulthood. Could it be that she had a constant urge for sex? Most children who gets introduced to sexual practices at a tender age, develop huge love for the act and are constantly in need of it. Could it be her friends influencing her negatively? Beware of the friends your daughters keep, especially while growing up. We will agree that childhood friends are hard to let go. Imagine when that childhood friend is a negative one, there is huge problem.

     In her case, all 3 assumptions are true. She was never contended, always wanted more. She started engaging in sexual practices at a very tender age, and Yes! She had very negative childhood friends. But whichever the case be, her mother should be blamed, because she never had time for her. She was the last girl with fully grown and married elder sisters. Most women forget their responsibility to their younger children especially when the older ones are fully grown. Her mom toured the world, hence she was left to grow alone.

     Some parents go as far as restricting their daughter’s movement, locking them up at home, preventing them from keeping male friends. Unfortunately, this has not proven to be helpful from time immemorial. I have seen girls whose movements are restricted, but are rotten spoil. The things they do, an exposed girl would not even do.

     Why keep facts from a child, when they in ways we can’t imagine play roles in their development?

Going back to the story at the beginning of this post, a lot of things would have been prevented if her mother knew the right thing to do. If only she had a no-secret kind of relationship with her daughter. If only she monitored her daughter closely, no matter how hard times were. A girl who has learnt to deal with certain situations on her own ends up making irrational decisions and always walks down the wrong path.

     It is understandable for a father to be too busy to meet the mental needs of his children, but a mother has no excuse. Or does feminism speak against this too?

     Make yourself available for your daughters, establish good-friendly relationships with them, teach them to never keep quiet when they are touched in sensitive parts of their body, and guide them until they can stand on their own.

We are the cause of our very own problems today.

Quick question: in your own thoughts, who should we blame for the wrong paths some girls decide to take in life? Themselves or their mothers?

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