“Friend” A title often used and
cheaply given. One mostly awarded to unworthy personalities!
The prominent ancient Greek
philosopher, Aristotle is of the opinion that friendship should be highly
valued because it is a complete virtue. He argues that “virtuous friendship is one of
the most glorious attainments one can achieve”
We all have the right to our personal opinions to this
particular question. It has raised a lot of unrest and unnecessary forms of
vocal abuse in our social medias especially.
Well, In my own opinion, it has done more harm than good!
It is quite unfortunate that in an attempt to solve the
problem of Gender inequality and discourage Oppression/mal-treatment of women,
more problems are being created.
I am a woman with zero tolerance for nonsense. I am against
the entire Gender Inequality practices, but cannot categorically tell you that I
am a Feminist. This is because of the mannerism at which most women pass their
messages.
I totally understand that, what women go through in our today
world, especially in our dear country, Nigeria, is unfair, alarming and
unjustly!
Though Feminism ought to entail equality in all ramifications
of life, political and social aspect inclusive. Most feminists I see today are “Relationship/Marital”
Feminists.
Please Women, note this; The fact that your marriage or
relationship failed due to your lack of proper moral upbringing and orientation
isn’t a reason to categorize yourself as a Feminist! Please take note!
I totally understand the reason and need to stand up, get a
voice and fight for a fair and equal treatment between women and our male
folks. But, when I look around, I see women taking unnecessary steps, sailing
through the wrong course, walking down wrong paths and making negative
utterances in the name of fighting for Gender equality.
From my observations, I ask; Why are most feminists aggressive
and rude?
Have you made that observation?
No matter what the situation may be; Irrespective of the point
you are trying to chip in, do you really have to take it out on the world with silly
attitudes?
Also, I won’t let the men go scot-free in this. You all
caused this! You made our once “responsible women” turn “sour” with your
ill-treatments and acts of foolishness believed to be a sign of wisdom (cheating).
Men! On your own, you took laws into your hands and turned
yourselves to mini-gods.
Yes, it is written that, “the man shall be the head”, but
clearly you all got that part misunderstood.
God gave you right over all creation, women inclusive. I agree!
To make peace between them, to love and care for them, to nurture them, help
them grow and preserve them. Not to bring to their dwelling pain and agony. Not
to steal away the peace and happiness and freedom God willed to them.
Men compare our present world with the days of our
forefathers, forgetting that our forefathers were not conversant with the
teachings of the Holy Bible. They knew next to nothing about the true purpose
of our existence. Permit me to say, “ they were illiterates”. How then can you truly compare Today with
Yesterday? It doesn’t add up! It is an error!
Men, I celebrate y’all! We see your daily struggle and we appreciate. But,
you must change your attitude towards women in order to correct the attitude of
our today women. You see, in all, you remain the head!
In conclusion: My dear Feminists, preach feminism, but you
must do it in a way that still promotes family values. Do not turn bitterness
resulting from your own personal fault to a course. Thereby nurturing and
promoting wrong values.
I am a woman! I stand
against domestic violence, rape and other forms of abuse. But, I stand for the
Right thing!
Iam_peaceaghedo…………………………………………….writing
is my passion!
Briefly, I want to give a shout out
to every individual(man, woman, boy or girl) struggling to make it in life. I don’t know if you’ve been told, you
are special!
Every Christian’s focus
should be on Jesus Christ, who is the Alpha and omega, the Beginning and the
end, the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Mighty man in battle, the Creator who
was not created, the King of kings, Lord of lords, Prince of princes.
I always felt I was all strong and tough, I felt I had seen
the worse of things in life. But I thought wrong. This is the hardest I have
ever dealt with in life. Your death hit me the hardest!
The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your
attitude!
It depends on what goes on in your mind, how you face your
fears/challenges, what attitude you decide to put on.
You having a good day doesn’t mean you have no challenges on
that particular day. It was your decision to not worry about those challenges. It
was your decision to not allow circumstances weigh you down. It was your
decision to face that particular day with a positive attitude.
So why have a bad day, when all that matters is what you tell
yourself?
Why worry so much when you possess the power to make it all
go away?
If you were disappointed, why let that steal away your happiness,
when you could just say to yourself “Every disappointment is a blessing” and
just move on?
If you were insulted, why accept that you are “that” when you
could just reject those words and say to yourself, “I’m better than that”?
If you in need of something so urgently, and do not have
enough funds to purchase it, why let it cloud your sense of reasoning to the
extent that you forget to appreciate the things you have already, when you
could just say to yourself “I may not get this thing today, but I will
definitely get it someday”?
When someone walks out of your life, why block others away and
remain sober, when you could just appreciate those who stayed and be merry?
When someone looks down on you, or your background, why go
about blaming your parents for not being successful? Why develop that
inferiority complex by undermining yourself, when you could just say to
yourself, “ I will be great” and work towards it?
Life is never going to be entirely a bed of rose. No matter
the amount of wealth one would possess, challenges are forever going to be present.
But what keeps you going is your response, the attitude with which you face
them.
Never dwell on the past, it is one thing you can never
change. Instead, learn from it and move on.
For you to truly be happy, you must be able to take your
pains and play with it.
A happy life does not mean the absence of challenges/pains,
but your ability to face it.
Yes, God does exist! And Yes, Christians faces challenges!
the illiterate of the 21st century will not be
those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot unlearn the many lies
they have been conditioned to believe, and seek out the hidden knowledge that
they have been conditioned to reject.
It is never entirely a bed of rose!
Things happen!
Things sometimes go wrong!
Challenges happen!
But we must always keep a positive attitude in order to
bounce back.
Iam_peaceaghedo………………………………………………….
writing is my passion!
Beloved! Jesus, the only
son of god did not just leave his throne to come down to earth because he got tired
of staying in heaven. He did it for the following reasons:
Today, Argentina football star Lionel Messi 30, married
his childhood sweetheartAntonella Roccuzzo 29, at a luxury hotel inhis hometown, the city of Rosario.
This left me in tears. This is not foolishness, but
simply LOVE in its PUREST form.
Three adult siblings reportedly perished in the
deadly London apartment fire last Wednesday after staying behind so their
parents wouldn't have to die alone.
Every day at midnight since the
first of June, thousands of worshippers all over the world have logged on to Instagram
to lift their voices in praise and prayer, united by one hashtag: #HallelujahChallenge.
So, I am going to say this as simple
as possible; in a way, we are the cause of our problems. Most often, we go
after certain persons knowing fully well that they are not capable of offering
a relationship built on sincerity and faithfulness.
No single
relationship or marriage is entirely a bed of rose. Mostly, there are difficult
times, and almost every couple argue now and then, for this, men are advised to
be tolerant.
Mostly, when the word “rape” is
mentioned, first thing that comes to mind is that the offender is a
stranger; someone with no intimate relationship with his victim.
It
is the dream of every Nigerian student to put on the most talked about 7/7, khaki
and jungle boot. The camp stories told by those who have been there, I just
couldn’t wait to join this train.
1. Before you
start a relationship with a lady, you must think carefully about what you are
about to do. A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle
lightly.
Does distance really affect a relationship or is it simply a way of
testing your foundation as a couple?
There are many examples in life
today, where one party happens to be in a distant state or country, probably for work
purpose or for academic pursuit, and this does not in any way threaten the love and emotions they share.
Sugarcane (Saccharum officinarum),belongs
to a grass family, Poaceae, and is a native
of Papua New Guinea, where it originated. It is a 100% natural drink, it has no
fat.
She was raped by her father when
her mother was admitted in the hospital during labour. He threatened to kill
her and her mother if she reported him to her or to anyone.
Guava
(Psidium Guajava) belongs to the
family of Myrtaceae. It is soft when
ripe with a sweet aroma and creamy texture. The fleshy part varies in colour,
Watermelon (Citrullus lanatus), is a
nutrient dense food that provides a high amount of vitamins, minerals and
antioxidants for a low amount of calories.
Friendship is the greatest
possession of all things which wisdom provides to make life entirely happy. It is
different to love, it can grow into love, or it can become a whole special
relationship of its own.
Meningitis is a viral or bacterial
infection of the protective layers of the brain and spinal cord(meninges). It
is a serious health issue, if not well attended to, may result in permanent
brain damages
Suicide, “an intentional act of
causing one’s own death”……..
Suicide is not chosen, it happens
when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.
Barely few weeks ago, a medical
practitioner, Dr Allwell Orji, committed suicide by jumping into the lagoon in
Lagos, recently two women attempted suicide by jumping into the lagoon also. In
Ghana, a university undergraduate committed suicide by jumping down from a
storey building.
What exactly is going on in this world,
I still cannot phantom! How bad could life be for one to want to take his/her
life. I totally do understand that life itself isn’t easy neither is it fair to
any man. But is ending your life the solution?
How come we give the devil so much
authority over our lives? How come we give our enemies so good a reason to
celebrate? Why do give those making mockery of us more reason to laugh at us?
Why do we satisfy those who wait patiently for our downfall?
Alright, for whatever reason, what
exactly is achieved after ending your life? Eternal peace? It is quite
unfortunate that the dead are not given the grace to return to earth and warn
the living. That would have been an eye opener to a lot of persons
How bad exactly is that situation? is
it financial crisis? Bareness? Emotional issues? Marital problems? Loss of
someone dear? Were you raped? were you duped? Tell me, what is this problem? Loss
of employment? daddy and mummy issues? Low self-esteem? You think ending your
life is the best way out?
Suicide, is the 10th
leading cause of death worldwide. In 2013, suicide resulted in 842,000 deaths
globally from 712,000 deaths in 1990.
According to research, people who
consider or attempt suicide has one or more of the following risks
·Family history of suicide attempts or completed
suicide
·Personal or family history of severe anxiety,
depression, or other mental health issues such as schizophrenia or bipolar
disorder.
·Drug or alcohol problem
Let it be noted that no matter what
you go through today, you are not alone, there are thousands of persons
worldwide going through same problem, and millions of persons going through
situations worse than hat you facing.
People turn to suicide because they
are seeking relief from pain. Remember, relief is a feeling. You have to be
alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you desperately seek if you are
dead. Some persons are of the habit of
not crying out for help, so they turn to committing suicide so they wouldn’t be
a burden to anyone. Sweetheart, you should never give yourself the additional
burden of trying to deal with issues alone. There are people out there who can
be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you.
Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of pressure.
Parents try to establish friendly
relationships with your children, let them not just see you as a parent, but
also as a friend, a confidant. Some teenagers go through a lot in life, and
need a matured mind to help save their ships from capsizing, this is where a
good parent comes in. Ensure to keep track on their mental health, through this
one can detect who is at risk of suicide.
An advice to all……….
·Be nice to Everybody you come in contact with,
you may not know what that person is going through.
·Help people in any little way you can, as you
may just be saving a life or two.
·Whenever people sought for your audience/advice,
try your best to be available for them, no matter how busy you may be. You may
just be saving a life.
·Never make mockery of anyone, no matter how
lacking they may be. No matter how blessed you may be. You may end up being the
reason for a suicide.
·In relationships, if there be any time you feel
like giving up, try do it in a way such that wouldn’t result in a mental
breakdown for your partner. As this has been a major cause of suicide over the
years.
Peace Aghedo Ngozi (PAN) - A graduate of the University of Benin, B.ed Environmental Education. Also has certification in UK HSE. I am an inspiritational and motivational writer. I love to Read, Write and Blog. An Optimist and true to myself.
